Schedules, deadlines, appointments, work to be done; you didn’t have time to pause. You didn’t even have the time to eat.
You were attacking your own mouth with the fork that had –you thought- some Greek salad on it. Then you asked: how can you stab your tongue so deep? This is surreal! It was not. I know this because it happened to me once.
You made a big hole. You, who once said that you were never making a piercing on you, not even for the sake of entertainment, made place for a dime in your tongue.
Tongues are incredible. They can regenerate as fast as any part of your body… unless the bacteria finds out about it. And, since tongues are so exposed to everything, they are a golden mine for bacteria.
What? You don’t like antibiotics? Bad luck!
You knew it was going to hurt. Every time you attempted to eat, speak, laugh, drink… it hurt. You tried to speak, it hurt. You decided to shut your mouth, it hurt. More than a pain in the
neck, it did, because you don’t use your neck so often.
Time passes and one day you look at the mirror and you note an ugly scar in the middle of your tongue, but it’s OK because it doesn’t hurt anymore. You remember how uncomfortable you felt and you feel relief that you don’t have to suffer that again, you feel gratitude.
You go back to your working desk and continue with what you were doing: you were evaluating how 2011 went for you. Right there, you remember my last week’s post about draining your emotions before facing the task.
Nah! I don’t need to do that new-age thing, you say, I am tough enough, mature enough to take some heat.
You go on, but suddenly you feel uneasy about that plan that just didn’t work out fine, or that thing this person said about you when –she thought- you weren’t listening.
Now you question yourself: will that uneasy feeling affect your evaluation?
Here’s a trick to help you tell whether that emotion will alter your judgment or not. Does it feels like the scar on your tongue? Can you think about it and feel relief that you don’t have to go through that experience again?
Or, you feel so uncomfortable that you have to immediately think of something else? If it feels so, you have to solve that before you try to evaluate your year; otherwise, you won’t be able to get positive results. You will get biased by your own emotions.
Now, here’s the important part: you don’t have to leave your working table to solve that. You can solve it immediately applying one of the strongest and more powerful tools we humans have. You guessed it: forgiveness.
You see: you must realize that the conflict is not in reality but inside your own head. And hence, you are the only one who can fix it. You have to figure out who is the one that you have to forgive, and then forgive that person.
One useful tip: that person might be just you.
It is that simple! Which doesn’t mean that it’s easy, but you knew that, didn’t you?